Read This if You Feel “Undateable”

Spoilers: You’re not.

Jenna Goldsmith
3 min readMay 15, 2019
Photo by Jean Gerber on Unsplash

For 22 of my 25 years, I’ve been single. And most of those 3 “not single" years I was in an on-again-off-again thing.

The dating world has changed a lot in my lifetime. It’s no longer about meeting some guy in a bar or god forbid an actual Meet Cute! People don’t meet each other in real life anymore, it’s all about the dating apps.

Tinder has made dating into a pastime, where you can always be looking for the next potential date. Even looking itself is passive; as easy as a swipe on your phone.

It’s also made hooking up a lot easier, which is nice for those looking for a quick fling. But for those who want something a little more serious, online dating is a minefield. Trying to wade through the guys/girls who are just there to hook up, hoping you’ll find someone to actually talk to.

There are also all these rules, especially for women, so you don’t get “ghosted.” Be engaged in the conversation, ask questions, but don’t seem too available. If they don’t ask you out in two days, let it go.

I’ve been ghosted more times than I can count. But I would never claim to be good at chatting someone up on Tinder.

So between spending all my time on Tinder being ghosted and not actually meeting anyone in real…